any tips? i've been waiting 20 years and it still hasn't happened. it's not a case of wanting to lose weight - i look awful when i'm really thin, and i'm not huge at the moment. i eat healthily (i worked it out 60% raw fruit and veg, 30% bread, 10% chocolate), and i never really drink (about once every 3 weeks at the moment), but i'm still not happy. i have NO confidence and i can't help but look at other people's figures and wish i had their attributes.
arghhhh. i'm just really fed up of it now and obviously nothing is going to change, so really... is there anything i can do?
on a completely unrelated note, german drivers don't pay attention to traffic lights, i nearly got run over on the way home.
See a psychologist
7 birds, 1 stone
wouldn't be able to explain in german.
but thanks.
I'll translate for you
"Ich denke dass ich dick bin." Problem solved!
i think you're a dick too!
^
he's mean.
(not harru)
Then who?
you!
No wai!
I'm ace.
boo
<checks out profile>
you are fine, you are entitled to feel very confident
Is this where I'm supposed to say I love you?
:(
i'm serious like. i think only girls have this problem.
No, most people do.
Including me.
Me too!
I'm too thin and short
is my main issue.
I'm thinner and shorter than you
Thanks for making me hate myself even more.
*penis joke*
i used to have real issues with my height
but now, i quite like it. still too thin. must get rid of pointy elbows!
^ so much this
i don't think so
i'm not comfortable in my own skin. not just because i think i'm too thin, but also because i just don't really like how i look.
Same.
I feel like I should be striding, ooze sexual charisma and make clothes look good. Instead I have the build of a hobbit.
Low centre of gravity makes me a pretty good dancer though.
yeah, i'm in the club
always felt pretty awkward in myself!
on an odd but i-promise-not-intentially-creepy way, do you know Ross Baker?
HECK yes
he's my best friend. speaking of i need to email him.
ah right!
i was profile nosing and recognised your name from his myspace or somesuch..i don't know him well but it's cool we've got a link! i swear you could do a 6-degrees thing on here and get back within two or three most of the time..
awesome.
and you're from leicester? i know a lot of people from there! long and boring link i know. awwww i really miss ross. how do you (kind of) know him?
well
he was a couple of years (or one? can't remember) above me in school, and i knew his friends' brother..long and complex, pretty vague too! i visited me in my first or second year but i think that's the last time i saw him! so years ago now..
i am indeed in leicester, for now, kind of need a job before i can figure out where to live and stuff!
awww, i shall ask him!
where are you thinking of moving to? i want to move to london in about, errr 15 months or so!
...
You've stumbled upon the solution right in your very post. People who are comfortable in their own skin don't know what percentage of their nutritional intake is raw fruit and veg. Except for Gladiators - but they are inhuman freaks.
Also: Listen to more metal.
:)
i only eat salad at work because german food = fucking awful.
Ich mochte ein Currywurst
essen
wurst = devils food.
If I was in Germany
All my meals would consist of Frankfurters and apfelsaft
panzerkatsup
apfelschorle
is where it's at.
^truth
I keep drinking appletiser but it's just not the same *cries*
there there (})
lift is the best brand too. mmmmmmm appleygoodness.
don't think I've heard of it
will stock up next time I'm over there.
good german food is great
those giant sausages, schnitzel, fish. All awesome. I ate so well when I was in Germany.
Recommend me food
I'm going to K-Town for a weekend sometime.
Koeln?
I dunno, just try stuff. It's fairly continental, like French food, but a lot meatier and more filling. Schnitzel is a must. Wienerschnitznel is the best, if you can leave with eating baby cow.
These foods sound yummy
Nah I'm going to Kaiserlautern on a football-based trip :)
insert "s" somewhere in there
basically rich sauce = win
giant sausages= win
baby cow steak fried in egg and breadcrumbs (sorta I think) = massively yum
there's some amazing sausage restaurants round the cathedral
you order your sausage by the metre.
Oh yeah, fish!
I love that German delicacy!
you massive wang, I mean the way they cook it is great
lots of rich sauces and stuff. Mmmm.
the only nice thing they do is bread.
you're just sodding fussy.
that sounds harsh
just as well you're a nice person.
:) i know you don't mean bad by it.
i am fussy. ahhhh wellll.
Brot?
Mmm, wunderbar!
lecker-to-the-max
hmm
I don't generally feel that self conscious anymore. I guess it just disappeared with a lot of other awkward teenage traits. This isn't particularly helpful though, I guess you missed the boat on that one.
actually
I still feel like a nob sometimes about my height. Like a month ago when I was walking through this village full of tiny cottages and tiny old people.
I feel your pain.
I have a friend who's a model, she has a great figure and is really pretty. But I'm actually more jealous about how comfortable in her own skin she is than how she actually looks. She can take her clothes off for a shoot and not feel embarrased about it, I'd love to have that kind of confidence. :(
I hoped it would come with age, but I don't think this is the case.
Whenever I feel really rubbish about how I look, I get my hair done or something. Getting a new tattoo makes you feel a lot better about showing that particular part of your body off. I reckon if I got covered in tattoos, I'd feel much more at ease with myself. However, this might be cheating!
crap ain't it?
i still feel funny in my underwear in front of friends. i really really need to decide what i want to do with my hair, it's at that grown-out stage now. i might get it done in a few weeks time if i can afford it.
maybe i should start yoga and be super toned and turn into geri halliwell.
I started yoga,
to get toned you need to do it A LOT and I don't really have the time or motivation to do any more than a two hour class a week.
I think it's more about coming to terms with your body than actually changing it (unless there is a major problem that can be fixed).
I have more of a problem with my lower body, I HATE my legs. When people ask me why I can't give a direct answer, I just don't like them. I have quite a few scars on my thighs, thus have managed to avoid showing them in public for at least three years now, which means I haven't been able to wear a swimming costume or anything.
My psychologist tried to help me build up my confidence in this area, but nothing's really worked so far and she sort of gave up on it. Too many other things to discuss! :S But I might bring it up again with her. On especially bad days, not liking how I look can make me feel negtively about everything and can stop me going out places. I wish it didn't, because it comes accross as vanity, but it's hard.
my problem is
stomach and upper body really. also i got some lovely scars on my shins from when i burnt myself cooking a few weeks ago, but hopefully they'll fade with time!
i sometimes just don't wanna go out (to a club) because i don't feel right, but that's not happened recently (mainly because of my avoidance of clubs). what's really odd though is that i'm socially really confident, i just feel a bit out of place and down about it sometimes and i really want to change it and try and accept myself as i am. i don't know how, or where i could start...
We should put your bottom half and my top half together.
But then we'd only be one person. Probably better we don't actually.
good idea. hah
stitched together like sally doll?
Hey Lauren
Shut up.
hey adam
fuckoff.
:'(
I'm being cruel to be kind!
({)
Apart from the "7 birds, 1 stone" bit
i know
(})
Seriously though
I'm sure you've spent most of your life having people tell you how great you are, so I won't bother with that. Just stop taking pity and sympathy away from us who really need it :'(
shussshhhhh
i wanted advice, and you don't need any sympathy, you're great as you are. moan at me if you want! i just thought i'd be proactive about what i hate; my confidence.
But wrightylew loves you
What more could you want? If you really want to be proactive, see a psychologist when you get back to England. That's my only suggestion, and I think it's a good one.
i think i might.
it's long overdue, can you get them on the NHS?
You can
focus your mind on your other attributes...
...or spit out against the world. Become a Brooker esque. misanthrope,...see also: Johnny (from Mike Leigh's 'Naked'' and Bernard Black from 'Black Books'')
sounds perfect :)
Being me is proper shit.
is that the self depreciation kicking in?
no, the ego's back...
I love the shape of my head.
My clothes are snazzy.
I'm tops.
Lauren!
I'm sure you'll feel a lot better once you get back here again.
Who cares how much raw veg you eat - think of all the rad Pitza Cano you'll be able to have once you live in LS6.
I spend a lot of time thinking how much better looking my friends are than me, but there's really nothing I can do about it. I have conceded that I'd rather have a better record collection instead.
You are a totally good person. That's all that matters far beyond any bad perceptions or hang ups you've got of yourself.
x
hi there!
awww, i do miss my pitza cano, really really.
thank you lots and lots! are you gonna be around in june? is that when your tour is? i'm back 2 weeks tomorrow. i think i'll do a you and hide away for my 21st though and not tell anybody.
:) x
I am away
13th-21st. The rest of the time I'll be at work or hanging out in my room. Is that you back for good, now?
Harry organised a party for my birthday and I had a really nice time in the end!
noooo
i'm here for like another 3 months!!!! arghhh. sooooo come to a gig? do you like why?
i'm back 5th till the 14th or something.
yeah but flights are expensive, it's so much to organise and i move back to leeds 2 weeks after. maybe i'll throw a housewarming party? i dunno.
WHY?
YEAH!
I love leeds-centric posts.
also agree with what he said.
hooray
[especially for pitza cano]
Pitza Cano is good
Luckys is better. I love those men.
Also, don't be silly, everyone has ugly days. I have them often as my face looks like its made of dough, you, from your profile picture, clearly don't.
No way!!!
Though I am biased because Cano do vegan.
Best vegan pizza in Hyde Park is Grove, though I can't afford it too often.
/
I did used to love pound a slice Luckys after a show when I still ate cheese though...
I think we all get self concious
about the way we look. From the odd chat on here you are a well nice person and pretty too. I don't really know how to help I guess its about finding your own confidance and all that jazz. Do stuff that makes you smile and I hope you feel better soon.
Just dont think about it
If I constantly thought about my body the way I do when I'm down I don't think I would be able to get out of bed in the morning. You look so pretty from your profile as well!
So yes my advice don't accept the skin, ignore the skin, avoid mirrors especially.
thanks,
i've had issues ever since my dad said to me "you'd better make the most out of wearing topshop clothes, you won't be able to when you're older" - when i was 14.
i also run away from mirrors when drunk - true story.
I BLAME THE MEDIA.
I'm constantly battling against two opposing character traits...
maniacal egotism and complete self deprecation.